It seems asthough everyone around me is either getting engaged, is already married, or having babies. To be honest it kind of surprises me that people are ready to settle down at this age.
A while back I asked for some peoples opinions on the matter; this is what they wrote.
"Young in the sense of age doesn't necessarily have much to do with it. Now young in sense of a young relationship - that's what matters. It doesn't matter if you're 16 or 60 if you haven't known the person very long or marry impulsively (both of which are usually the issues with young engagements/marriages) that's when you run into problems."
"I don't see the reason to rush into it, marriage isn't something to take lightly its for the most part a life time commitment and you don't wanna end up in something you are gonna regret"
"I think religion and sex plays a big part in young marriages. I have more then a few friends who were married before the age of 18 and divorced by 21 because they wanted to experience a sexual relationship all because their religion says they'll go to hell if they have sex before marriage. Now they're 24-25 and divorced and all say it was a HUGE mistake getting married so young. On the flip side tho my two best friends got married when they were 22-23 years old and I think they will be together for ever"
"the human brain only becomes fully developed around age 25, so until then it's difficult for people to properly predict future consequences. I think this adds significant risk to making early huge life decisions."
If the couple is in love, been together for years, feel ready they should get married right? What if they are only 18? Why is there a stigma with young marriages? Why are they looked down upon? What's your opinion?
Good topic Marissa, didn't know this was such a contentious issue in your life! Are you still waiting at least until your 27?
ReplyDeleteAs a fellow 19 year old i gotta say, the concept of getting engaged is pretty distant
ReplyDeleteI think it also has to do with looks. If a couple is very young looking, it will have a worse effect then if they were more mature looking. I also think its because it is so penalized in the press and on TV that it can be more shunned then it should be.
ReplyDeleteI don't necessarily agree with young marriage because life is way too long to waste it on such a special experience at such a young age. Nobody should ever feel pressured into doing something either, it should definitely be mutual and age may play a huge factor in that sense
ReplyDeleteAs a person who has lived through the teens and to 28, I can say that I am much more willing to settle down now than I was back then. Though I was always willing to. I think the issue comes from a deeper place possibly. One where the values you learned as a child affect you in your teen years, at least in terms of being ready to settle down. As to why it's looked down upon, I would say it's from people who have a good idea what is right for them, and they are caught up thinking they know what is right for someone else. Classic judgement call mistake.
ReplyDeleteIn the end I think it's just like same sex marriage, it's their lives and their love so why get in the way of that. We only have one go around in this world and we have to spend it with those we want to be around and those we love
ReplyDeleteIt all really depends on the length of the guy's penis. If you have an average size penis, which is about 7-8 inches, you're just an average guy. Why would a girl want to marry a 7 inch penis when they could have a 14 inch meat log? I think young people need to invest more money into penis enlargement therapy.
ReplyDeleteI just think if your not ready don't do it- you will save the other person from dealing with you unhappiness. Don't feel like you have to be married young. However, some people feel that they are ready and want to get married i don't feel that we should criticize that either (not saying you did at all though!) <3
ReplyDeleteI think young marriages can be a huge mistake, but I also think sometimes you just know that it's right. And no one else can feel what you feel. Some of the cutest old couples I've ever met have been high school sweethearts. To each their own. If you're sure about something then follow your heart.
ReplyDeleteI was engaged at 19, then again at 25 and married at 25. Don't hate, MacAlister.
ReplyDeleteI know that at 23 I am not the same person I was last year or at 18 for that matter but saying that. If two people are able to grow and accept the new changes of one another through early years of marriage than I see no problem with it. But at 18 I believe a lot of kids and yes I use the word kida because thats what they are dont understand what life has in store. And how jard it may be. Its fun to be together when things are good but we need to think about when life is hard.
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